An open relationship?

Attended a discussion on open relationships. Discovered that everything covered I already knew. Sometimes one never realizes how much they may know until they sit for a discussion on it. Still it was good and well worth it. It was a challenge more in getting myself to go. One point I was tempted to turn around and head home. My social anxiety was getting the best of me.
In thinking about this though. I wonder how open I am to an open relationship. We are so set in are ways that our rut is somewhat comfortable. Bringing one or more people in would, depending on the depth of the relationship, disturb are dynamic in unforeseen ways. This could be both a good thing and a bad thing. Good in that it forces us to grow just that little bit more. Bad that are rut gets messed with.

While an open relationship, or you could say consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, even swinging is another term, is not for everyone. And should not and does not need to. But there are those of us who can not be monogamist and rather then lie to them we would prefer to be honest. Because as we know honesty is the best policy in all things.
  
I know from my talks on this subject with the wife, that she really would like to have on or two more females in our lives. While its a nice idea, I think the wife would benefit the most from this. It would allow her to explore aspects of her sexuality and identity in ways that I cant provide for her. I believe that, or know that I am ok with this. While she has played with a couple other females it has always been play and a one time thing. She could get a lot from an actual relationship.

This is another aspect of an open relationship. If we are ok with monogamy but are partner is not then what can we do to make them a happy and fulfilled person. Letting them find a play partner or something more then that, well that would be whats best for them. But is it whats best for us? It would not diminish the love they have and could strengthen the relationship. All of this of course requires much thought, introspection and communication. 

Whereas with me... I don't know if having another female in my life is something I need or want. I like the fantasy of having a threesome but then who doesn't. While I have had some opportunities to play with others I have lacked the interest. I tend to think this stems from a lack of a relationship with the other person. I seem to need an emotional investment in someone in order to be truly sexual with them. While sex isn't necessary it is fun and can be a real bonding experience. It may be that are dream for a closed triad may just be that and a V type of setup with the wife as the pivot point would be the best we could hope for.
All in all what we have is good but it lacks the ability to fulfill all are needs. Which isn't good but we also know that we are not the easiest people to be around. So it is difficult to find someone who would want to craft an enduring relationship or even just be play partners. Of course I have also found that being married and having kids really scares people off. I think I could continue as is though it wouldn't be ideal or make her happy.

This of course necessitates introspection, communication in an open and honest manner. The challenges and opportunities offered are many and varied according to each individuals current situation. Its a new experience waiting to be explored and its one that has been around far longer then would think.